Each year we start out with new anticipation of leaving the old behind. We have the best of intention and two weeks into the new year, something happens and old memories flood back.
Why not settle what's in your heart now before the new year begins?
If you can't talk to the person/boss/friend/neighbor/family member (etc.), why not email them, send them a card or letter ........... voice how you feel in a kind and loving way but get it off your heart.
Could you have been mistaken?
Sometimes our minds will process information and our perception of an event can get....well, animated in our minds.
We add more emotion or misread information that was given to us.
At that time we were ok with it but as time passed our minds decided a little more drama would add spice to it making it more of what it was.
We can all admit mistakes in giving information to others, after all it was our perception or was it?
You always want a kind heart in delivering news or having a conversation with someone.
Perception is what makes us each different.
The person delivering the news has one thing in mind, while the person receiving it is getting another picture.
Is it anyone's 'fault'? No!!
This is what makes the world go around, we are all different.
It's the admitting of the perception of the conversation that made you have resentment.
What is resentment? Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.
Anger festering up and building in us until we take it out on someone else OR we cut a tie with someone based on our ego's adding drama to something because we thought otherwise. Did you really want that tie cut and this was your 'excuse' to do it? (that topic is for another day)
Most people can feel resentment. You can tell when someone is just acting like something doesn't bother them. They are not their 'normal' Self/self.
We get to know people. We know those little things about them and them, us.
We think we can hide it but.....it always seems to show itself sooner or later in small ways.
Food for thought:
Could we have taken our anger or misperceptions out on others? Could it be that when someone spoken to us the truth hurt us? Oh truth........yea.......maybe that person was right. (maybe they were wrong) Isn't truth a hard pill to swallow? Who is really hurting? The other person may or may not have delivered the words in a kind way but it was our perception and then possible added ego drama which is making it more in our heads then it really is.
Should we step aside and really think about the situation.
With this New Year fast approaching can you leave resentment behind or solve it so YOU can begin anew?
Are you ready to let go and live 2018 to the fullest?
Who can you enlisted to help you to move forward?
My favorite quote is from Elizabeth Gilbert's movie (I haven't read the book) Eat, Pray, Love:
“I've come to believe that there exists in the universe something I call "The Physics of The Quest" — a force of nature governed by laws as real as the laws of gravity or momentum. And the rule of Quest Physics maybe goes like this: "If you are brave enough to leave behind everything familiar and comforting (which can be anything from your house to your bitter old resentments) and set out on a truth-seeking journey (either externally or internally), and if you are truly willing to regard everything that happens to you on that journey as a clue, and if you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher, and if you are prepared – most of all – to face (and forgive) some very difficult realities about yourself... then truth will not be withheld from you." Or so I've come to believe.”
Click on the words they will like you to the movie quote on YouTube.
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